The Adult Way to Avoid A Big Fight With Your Mate

We all want to avoid fighting with our mate. When you have done something wrong to your mate that upsets them, like put a dent in the new car, forgot to pick up milk on the way home, or promised to show up for dinner and then stayed at work, you’ve got a problem that can lead to another big fight.

You will have a big fight if you make excuses and tell your partner they shouldn’t get so upset and how they don’t understand the tough day you’ve had. Instead of defending and making excuses, you can do something much more powerful. You can just admit you screwed up and that you are sorry.

This will often enable you to avoid fighting with your mate. Once they see that you understand that you upset them, they can begin to relax some. They can begin to get past it. They can get to forgiveness and letting it go so much quicker.

We are all going to do things that upset our mate. And some of those things will create relationship damage unless we own up to them and fess up to our part in creating the upset. When we do this type of communication, it will help move the issue from a big fight to something that can be let go of quickly.

So be the adult when you make a mistake that angers your mate. Take responsibility. Acknowledge that you caused the upset. Make a promise (if you can keep it) or declare an intention to not do it again. This is a powerful way to sidestep a big blowout. Your mate may yell and let off some steam, but they are much more likely to calm down and be forgiving when they see you understand that you upset them and why.

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